How do you know if he/she's the one? If they're worth your effort?
So there's this person you really like, but it doesn't seem as if they have any interest in you whatsoever. Do you carry on pursuing them, even if it annoys them, or do you give up completely?
Let's create a scenario. We have Howard, 17, the guy who's never had any luck with girls. He wears glasses ad has no sense of fashion. Then there's Sally, the 'love of his life'. She's the popular blonde one who has all the boys in line waiting for her. Stereotypical, but it'll do.
Howard has finally mustered the courage to confess to her. She rejects him. Just like that. Howard, who was already lacking confidence, backs away and remains depressed for the rest of the year. It seems like even though she's his soulmate, it was never meant to be. What went wrong? Let's take a step back.
If Howard really believed she was the one, he shouldn't have gave up. He won't know what's going to happen. Nobody does. But if Sally is the one, he should never give up.
Now if Howard did keep pursuing her, there's only going to be two outcomes:
A. Sally realises her love for him, and Howard has succeeded in finding his soulmate.
B. Sally gets pissed off, and Howard never sees her again.
I'm not gonna lie, the latter is most likely going to happen. Maybe she just wasn't the one. I say that to a lot of my guy friends who haven't had the reply they wanted.
In fact, I forgot to mention the third outcome:
C. Howard gives up after a he realises she isn't really the one. Giving up at this stage is different to if he gave up when she first rejected her. Giving up now, Howard doesn't regret anything. He tried his best, and if he gave up at this point, Sally isn't his soulmate.
To summarise, if you think you've found the one, you never give up going for them. If you do find that you give up after giving your all, then they're not the one. You move on, and keep searching. Many people will disagree with me when I say, everyone has one soulmate. You just have to look hard to find them.
What if you wanna try but you're just gonna look like an idiot because she's getting married soon and she's about 9 years older and you really don't wanna give up but have to because you haven't seen her in about 5 months and probably never will again and that kinda hurts....
ReplyDeleteIf she's your soulmate, it'll work out somehow. Just never give up!
DeleteI don't think it's going to work...
DeleteDid Crazy Stupid Love make you think about this sort of thing? xD
She probably isn't your soulmate if you don't have the will to fight for her.. And yeah xD it's just such a sick film!! I need more romcom recommendations please :D
DeleteI do have the will to fight, I just can't... I don't think I believe in soulmates anyway.
DeleteI haven't seen that many tbh, Crazy Stupid Love is definitely one of my favourite films though :)
If you wanna watch a romance, you could watch Before Sunrise and Before Sunset.
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ReplyDeleteHey Jag, You had great memories with that girl ^^, keep it as memories. Look forward to Uni. I'll guarantee you will find the love of your life there ^^.
ReplyDeleteHaha thanks David xD
DeleteIn my perspective. Soul mates don't exist until you connect with someone. You make them your soulmate. If you lose the chance to retain them when you had the chance then that's the soulmate of your life gone. Once you lose control, you lose it forever. Aha.
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